May 26th, 2019
The sun came out today. It’s been gone for a while. That means all of the lawnmowers came out too. It’s been soggy around here, and any chance for a fellow suburbanite to cut the grass is taken up immediately. It’s loud outside. It sounds like the humming of dozens of gasoline-powered bees. I mowed the front yard yesterday, and that was enough for now. The backyard will probably be a swamp until July. It’s best that I leave it alone.
Today is Sunday, so it’s not actually Memorial Day yet. But it feels like it. I can see the American flags popping up all over the place. I have read the ads in the paper for the Memorial Day Weekend sales. There is that noxious faux patriotism that infects everything, at least for the next couple days. It doesn’t matter. By Tuesday, nobody will give a fuck about the soldiers who died defending this country. By Tuesday, nobody will remember the veterans who are crippled and maimed. By Tuesday, people will pretend that we are not a country at war.
That’s just how it is in America.
I walked to church this morning. It’s seven miles from our house to St. Rita Parish. I enjoyed the walk. I was alone, and I could listen to the birds, and I could examine the flowers of a belated Wisconsin spring. It took a little over two hours for me to walk to Mass. I am very grateful for those two hours.
I got to our church, and I spoke to one of our ushers (greeters). Dan shook my hand and said, “Happy Memorial Day!” He knew that I was a vet. I thought for a moment, and then I told Dan,
“You know, Dan, my son, Hans, sometimes tells me that he doesn’t like it when people say ‘Happy Memorial Day!’ It’s not a happy day. It’s a day to mourn, a day to remember. Hans has told me that he prefers when people say, ‘Have a good Memorial Day.’ That seems to work better.”
Dan considered that, and said, “Yeah, I think I will try that in the future.”
I served as lector at Mass this morning. That means that I read from the Scriptures in front of the assembled believers. It also means that I read the “Prayers of the Faithful”, the combined petitions of our Catholic community. That part was difficult, very difficult.
Being that it is a national holiday, there were several prayers concerning soldiers, dead or living. Keep in mind that I have skin in the game. I am a veteran, although (through the mercy of God) not a combat vet. Our oldest son, Hans, is a combat vet. He fought in Iraq, and he came back here all screwed up.
One of the communal prayers said, “We pray for all veterans, that they may be healed of any physical and mental wounds.” Since I was at the microphone, I added “and any spiritual wounds”, because all of these poor bastards have spiritual wounds. Every one of them.
The next prayer was for the end of wars. That’s where I nearly lost it. I had not planned on it. It just happened.
I prayed, “Let us pray for the end of ALL WARS!” I damn near screamed that out. The congregation yelled back to me, “LORD, hear our prayer!” I had to pause for a bit. My mind reeled, and my chest heaved. Even now, I feel overwhelmed. I just wanted to cry. I kept going, somehow. I cried later.
In a way, it’s too hard. I can’t stop all the violence. I can’t.
I do what little I can do.
That has to be enough.
5 thoughts on “Memorial Day”
Beautifully stated. Thank you.
I am glad that you found the post helpful. I only write when I have something to say. That essay came from the heart.
Thank you …thank you…for being a witness to Life and Light. For knowing to name the essence of Gods presence in the midst of humanity. You, your family,your son…our peace thirsty world—-all are in our prayers. I sign this for my entire community who pray for and invoke the peacemakers of our world every evening in vespers.
Dear Sister Maureen,
First, thank you for your prayers. I don’t really know if I am much of a witness, or much of a peacemaker. Often I create more chaos and confusion than I do peace. I feel rather incompetent at times.
On Tuesday evenings I go with a small group of people to visit the vets in the psych ward at the local VA hospital. We just bring the patients snacks, and we hang out with them. I usually get into a conversation with one or more of the veterans there. I have found that the folks in the psych ward are not at all different from me. They are just wearing pajamas and a bathrobes, and I’m not. It has happened more than once that a patient has asked me what room I’m in. I have had to tell them that I am not a patient there (at least not yet). I feel like I have much in common with the vets in the psych ward, and they feel like I am one of them. I am grateful for that.